Are your goals helping you grow, or stunting your growth?
There is an extremely intriguing sea-creature in the hermit crab. Unlike many other species of crustacean, their exoskeleton is soft in the abdominal area, leaving them vulnerable to attack from other ocean predators. To protect against these attacks, hermit crabs live their lives in a shell, carrying their protection around with them. As the crab grows, they need progressively bigger shells to grow into. Without a bigger shell to move into, the little crustacean faces a very challenging life, and sometimes even death.
Our goals act just like these shells that the hermit crabs move into. The right goals will provide you room to grow. But just like these hermit crabs, your goals need to grow with you over time, else they could stifle you, suffocating your future development.
Goals: The Right Size Shell (at the right time.)
The right goal should be attainable, like a shell that you can grow into. If you select something too ambitious, that is like crawling into a shell that is too big, too heavy. When there is no chance of success, your goal will crush you beneath the enormity of the undertaking. This is why the hermit crab graduates to larger shells in stages throughout its life. If our oceanic friend tried to hop into its full-grown shell right from birth, it wouldn’t be able to move around. Suffering under the weight of its shell, the crab would surely die.
Similarly, a shell too small would hold the hermit crab back from its full potential. Your goals do this to you as well. When your targets are too easy, the goal too small, you don’t allow yourself the room to develop further.
While a few of us do set lofty goals, almost everyone falls into the second trap. Goals that are too small. These “goals” that we set are designed to ensure that we hit the mark every time. Without the chance of failure, we are depriving ourselves of the opportunity to learn from mistakes.
The purpose of a goal is to give yourself something to strive towards, but that doesn’t mean victory should be assured. Quite the opposite in fact, you should have the very real chance of failure. It is this chance of failure that pushes you to grow, to develop, to become more than you were when you first set the goal.
It is quite common for a hermit crab to change shells several times in rapid succession, testing out the various shells until it finds the right one for the moment. Your goals should be the same. There is no shame in adjusting your goals, making them just the right amount of stretch but maintaining a reasonable chance of success. Just like the hermit crab, you need to allow yourself room to grow, so that you will be ready to move on to bigger, better pastures.
Take a look at your list of goals. Which ones on that list are too hard? And which are too easy? How can you modify your goals to ensure you have ample room to grow as you chase success?
Growth, becoming more than what you are now, doesn’t come by accident. By carefully selecting your next shell, you can continue growing. And with your growth comes the level of success and achievement you could only dream of before.
With the right growth, the right goals, the world is your oyster.